ix Preface After being married for almost a quarter of a century, our rela tionship still feels new, fresh, and more intimate than ever. But there were times when it did not. When we rst met, although there was a strong attraction, we treated each other in ways that were not conducive to creating a magical relationship. It wasn"t that this was our intention; it was the only way we knew how to relate. We both did things that we had seen others do, relating as best we could. However, we were reluctant to look at those aspects of our communication and interactions that we considered to be negative. And if anything was amiss between us, it was surely the other"s fault. Over the years we have discovered what it takes to build a healthy relationship and keep it alive, nonconfrontational, and fun. We"ve also learned how to sustain and rekindle the res of love and passion. In our rst book, Working on Yourself Doesn t Work, we actu ally created the basis for having magical relationships. That book introduced our Three Principles of Instantaneous Trans formation, outlining the difference between transforming your life and merely attempting to change those aspects with which you are not satis ed. In How to Create a Magical Relationship, we expand on these ideas and principles as they apply to rela tionships. In this book, you will nd the secrets that we have stumbled upon, learned, and discovered along the way that have allowed us to move from being two individuals who were attracted to one another to a couple with a vital marriage.